Warning Signs

Do you…

  • Get angry or insecure about your partner’s relationships with others (friends, family, coworkers) and feel possessive?

  • Frequently call and text to check up on your partner, or have them check in with you?

  • Check up on your partner in different ways? (Ex. Reading their personal emails, checking their texts)

  • Feel like your partner needs to ask your permission to go out, get a job, go to school or spend time with others?

  • Get angry when your partner doesn’t act the way you want them to or do what you want them to?

  • Blame your anger on drugs, alcohol, or your partner’s actions?

  • Find it very difficult to control your anger and calm down?

  • Express your anger by threatening to hurt your partner, or actually physically doing so?

  • Express your anger verbally through raising your voice, name calling or using put-downs?

  • Forbid your partner from spending money, or require that they have an allowance and keep receipts of their spending?

  • Force or attempt to force your partner to be intimate with you?

  • Blow up in anger at small incidents or “mistakes” your partner makes?

Source: National DV Hotline

Call or chat with trained professionals at the National Domestic Violence Hotline

1-800-799-7233 (24/7)

or call our advocates at the San Diego County District Attorney's Office at

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This project was supported by Grant No. 2017-YX-BX-0001 awarded by the Bureau of Justice Assistance. The Bureau of Justice Assistance is a component of the Department of Justice's Office of Justice Programs, which also includes the Bureau of Justice Statistics, the National Institute of Justice, the Office of Juvenile Justice and Delinquency Prevention, the Office for Victims of Crime, and the SMART Office. Points of view or opinions in this document are those of the author and do not necessarily represent the official position or policies of the U.S. Department of Justice.